do this instead of moving (again!)

It’s the official day of spring and with that comes a burst of readiness to make big changes in your life. I’m actually getting this post done a bit late because I’ve come down with a cold and have been wanting to get some rest. I guess that’s what happens as the weather fluctuates. But back to my purpose of this post.

You may be ready to spring clean your home or make even bigger changes one of them being actually moving to a new abode. This may be for a number of reasons for moving:

relocation to a new city/job offer
growing family
your lease is up / rent goes higher
wanting to upgrade

(hint – and I’ll talk about this below – when you want an upgrade, your first move shouldn’t be to move)

Now let me tell you a bit about my experience living in 10 places other than my childhood home since I graduated high school including my grandparents, a college dorm room, a ministry dorm, a church, 3 apartments with roommates and 3 apartments since I’ve been married.

Most of these moves were because of major  life changes or wanting  a better life experience – that’s what happens in your twenties I suppose. As you discover what you really want in life you make drastic changes to get there and that can involve a lot of transition.

Then one day your realize that you want to settle into life a bit and not be so erratic with your ability to nest. The last big move we made was to our current place and this is what it looked like on move day:376429_248251701904711_1309168010_n

Yup that’s me and my hubby. We purposely gave those blank stoic stares because we were pretending we were on a show about hoarders. That’s what it felt like with all of our stuff scattered about. But looking at the pic now it doesn’t seem so bad (you can still see the floor!)

My desire to upgrade to a better apartment has been growing practically since we moved in but we’ve stuck it out here for almost 3 years. And we don’t have any immediate plans to move. Here’s my reasoning:

If you have no real reason to move, why not stay and make the most of things?

We live in a good location in terms of getting around – short bus ride into Manhattan and a long leisurely walk into nearby and mellowed out Hoboken, and although we’re not in that trendy of a neighborhood, it has its benefits (in very reasonable rent). We’ve thought about moving to Hoboken which is a bit pricier but we’ve realized that we don’t want to do that until we are doing considerably better financially to get the best place possible.

Waiting it out is giving us the ability to really sit down and consider what we really want in our next place. We can prepare now for the life we want to have down the road.

And what can we do while we are waiting?

Make some great investments into our current home that we can take with us to our dream home.

Now we haven’t really made many changes in the time we’ve been living here but we have plans to restyle things since we’ve decided to stick it out. This means a new couch, painting the walls, a new book case, curtains accessories, etc.

Cultivating the ‘stuff’ we own is a great thing to do now while our rent is so low because we can develop the style we want and acquire things that we really want. No we can’t take the painted walls with us, but we can play with color to start seeing what we really mesh with.

It seems that most of us who want the dream apartment/condo/house obsess over what we don’t like about our current space and think that having higher rent or a bigger mortgage means that we will instantly have an upgrade. But once you move into your new place, what will you be taking with you? Will you have to start from scratch because what you currently own doesn’t live up to your fancy new digs?

Why not be smart about it and start investing in your new home environment now, before you even discover it?

Don’t move because you don’t care for the lighting fixtures that you can’t change or because you don’t have granite countertops rightthisinstant. Your time will come for those things, if you don’t currently have them, upgrade your life now instead of complaining about your home’s flaws or wishing for the day you are rich enough for [enter your dream home desire here]. Take a look around and be grateful for all that you’ve been given in life. Then see where you can improve things right now.

Because if you can’t make your home feel great now you may get to your new place and find that you have the same problems (or bigger problems) cropping up.

Remember this:

“Do not despise the day of small beginnings…”

~ Zechariah 4:10 NLT Bible

And if you do have to move for any of the reasons other than upgrading listed at the beginning of this post take this wisdom with you if you find your new place isn’t what you’ve truly dreamed of.

It all comes down to this:

What do you envision for your life? How can you reach that vision? What changes to you need to make to get there?

Now I want to know, have you been itching to make a move? What is your biggest reason behind this desire?

Leave a comment and if you liked this post, please share it with your friends 🙂

And have a happy spring!



4 thoughts on “do this instead of moving (again!)

  1. Pingback: hello + an update… | graceful haven

    • Hi Jessica! It’s a bit chaotic… just moved from Ukraine to the US and now scouting out our next place (staying with family at the moment), maybe near here, perhaps far from here. Looking forward to having my own place to design and decorate again, thank God for pinterest and its endless font of inspiration in the meantime! : )

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